Ok i will do my best to answer all your questions.
1. My husband is Mexican, and he has always been a non EU citizen.
2. We married in Mexico and we had our marrige certificate apostilled in Mexico and then we had to go to the british consulate in Malaga and they had to see it and gave us a letter saying it was a legitimate certificate. We had to give that letter to the oficina de extranjeros when he applied for the visa.
3. yeah, my husband didnt apply for any type of visa prior to entering Spain. So when he arrived he just got the 90 day stamp in his passport and then he applied for the community residence card in the oficina de extranjeros.
4. Before we arrived in Spain and we were trying to get all the info we did call the oficina de extranjeros and they said he needed an entry visa which is different to a tourist visa prior to entering spain and he had to apply for it and the spanish embassy in his country. We contacted them and they said that the laws had changed and all the paperwork is done in Spain and they wouldnt issue any type of visa for him. So basically we had no choice. When we went to the oficina de extranjeros they didnt even ask what type of visa he had arrived on or they didnt even look.
5. I was never asked to live in spain for 1 year first.
6. we didnt have to provide income or bank statements. We had to provide a certificate of empadronmiento. We are living with my parents, so my dad had to go to the town hall in our town and show his papers for the house and my husbands passport and say that my husband was living in the house and he received the certificate de empadronmiento. I think if you are renting an apartment you need the rental contract and again go to the town hall.
7. My husband got his tourist visa from mexico, we checked out the website for the spanish embassy in mexico and they only issue the family regrouping visa for spaniards.
8. we both flew into spain together, i wasnt even a resident then when we arrived.
9. I had been a legal resident for 5 minutes before my husband submitted his application. We did the applications at the same time, i went to the desk first showed my passport and recieved my certificate for residency, then my husband went to the desk and he had to show my residency paper and give them a photocopy of it.
I came to Spain 2 years ago when my family moved here, a lawyer got all of our NIE number for us so I already had that. I dont know if that made it easier. Some people have told me that the NIE number for british people is very easy to get and you just basically show your passport.
We both had to pay a fee of 6,80euros.
If you find a lawyer or an acesora to do the paperwork it is great, but i would recommend doing your paperwork on your own because its so easy for you. And then for your wife to use a lawyer or acesora to save the hassle. Its up to you, even for your wife its not very difficult and you have to be there in person anyway to apply for the visa even if the lawyer helps you.
I know how stressful it is, i was 7 months pregnant and really stressing about it all. Everybody gives you different answers and its confusing. Have you contacted the spainish embassy in russia and see what they say? i would do that first.
let me know if you need anymore help.
karen