Spanish Cultural Commentary
Posted by The Expatriator
Tagged: lifestyle, culture, language, donkey, symbol, cultural, american, family, importance, generalizations
Spain Expat's cultural notes. The culture of Spain and cultural differences discussed by expatriates living in Spain.
And now it’s the time for wild generalizations, which are always a lot of fun, and sometimes even contain an element of truth.
Differences with the USA (by Tom Strong):
At the risk of patronizing, to me Spain harkens back to a more wholesome time, like, say, the Eisenhower era in the USA. I think during the isolation of the Franco years, Spain got stuck in time. After Franco, the country worked overtime playing cultural catch-up (witness the El Destape movie phenomenon of the late 70’s). The generation gap between Franco-era parents and post-Franco children is enormous, and yet these Franco-era parents still dominate the picture, with their lead role in the extended family. Almost certainly the Franco-era mother was and is principally a housewife, while the husband was the breadwinner (just like in ‘Leave It To Beaver’!)
That means the mother still knows how to clean and cook. A typical Spanish house is undoubtedly cleaner than an American house (and the Spanish are quick to tell you they invented the fregona). Were you surprised when you first saw someone mopping the sidewalk in front of their house or business? As for cooking, American grandmothers knew the art, their daughters lost it, and their yuppy grandchildren tried to recover it, but neglected the basics. (How many Americans can look at a slab of meat in the supermarket and tell its quality? How many can use a pressure cooker?)
It also means the father does not know how to clean and cook. I was helping out in my Spanish mother-in-law’s kitchen last Christmas. Various visitors dropped by and saw a male in the kitchen. From all the ‘times have changed’ comments I got, it was clear that times hadn’t changed that much.
The family is more important here than the individual. In the USA, a newborn baby gets a social security number. In Spain, the newborn gets added to the Libro de Familia. Countless TV programs feature children singing flamenco or in game shows (with numerous pans to the proud parents). Either because of the importance of the family, or because of higher unemployment, or because the mother’s main job is “mother” and would hate to lose her job, it’s not at all uncommon for the children to stay at home until (and beyond) age 30. More importantly, it’s not at all frowned upon. In the USA, of course, you’d be tagged with the word “loser”. Children in Spain are not thinking “I can’t take my parents another minute. I gotta get outta here”. Parent/child friction isn’t there, or it’s there but it’s accepted. Husband/wife friction is accepted too. In Spain, a judge in a divorce case can order the couple back to living together if the judge finds insufficient grounds for the divorce (and no mutual accord): lack of love, or “he’s a jerk” do not qualify.
Groups are treated like extended families. The Sevilla feria is based on these groups—everyone belongs to a few. Do you see anyone eating alone at a restaurant (besides the tourist)? Americans need their space; the Spanish enjoy a crowd. A big event is El Gordo Christmas lottery drawing—a single person never wins: everyone buys fractions of tickets from everyone else. Why does Spain have such a paltry number of deranged murderers? There are no loners like in the USA; once you’ve lost touch with your family and everyone else, it’s much easier to lose touch with reality. Because there are (fortunately) so few deranged murderers and (unfortunately) so few immigrants with different cultural backgrounds, everyone becomes a “tio” of everyone else. That is, everyone tends to look out for each other. That’s great when someone at the bar notices that your baby has his hand in the door jamb, but not so great when someone stops you in the street in midsummer to tell you that your baby can catch a cold with those bare feet (short pants in winter, though, are okay here).
Since the family gathers at mealtime, food is of great importance here. Look at the common expressions, like “está como un queso”, “es un chorizo”, “más buena que pan”. The Spanish are very proud of their gastronomic tradition, so for God’s sake, don’t tell anyone you prefer Thai. I’ve heard Spanish return from their New York holiday amazed that Americans will sit (alone) on a park bench to eat their lunch: how disrespectful! Americans have long lost any notion of tradition, and this is most apparent with food. The chemical food revolution arrived in the 50’s with a vengeance, then the pendulum swung far the other way with organic and fat-free food, leaving most Americans confused (yes, there is a difference between grease and olive oil) and still in worse health than the Spanish.
Americans are obsessed and stressed about work—individual achievement there is the measure of self-worth. During their free time, they take self-improvement courses: try to learn a language, psychoanalyze themselves, learn how to cook. The Spanish take it easy. When the mother of the house has finally finished cleaning, she goes with her friends to take a walk to the other end of town and back; it’s not for exercise, it’s for no real reason!
aaronegro said:
The Franco generation is no longer the one ruling at home as the next generation is living its own life.
Women stopped cooking, started smoking badly and being the pushing factor for the Spanish economy. The men are cooking better(my wife does not allow herself touching a single dish since she noticed I cook much better than her), are smoking less and still have the same status but with women at the same level.
Siesta: I still have to have one to know what it is. For me,lunch pause is there as a family meeting/lunch just for the sake of staying with them.
Catalans are doing the same as Spanish by showing their identity.The only problem is that this difference is being used politically in exchange for votes. Without politics trying to excite nations it would not exist such a difference.
The donkey is just an answer against the typical and topical Bull with which we Catalans feel offended as we do not share the bullfighting´s culture in which we have been relocated by the stereotypes.